Co-parenting is tough enough without unnecessary drama, and creator @korrin.and.em just gave parents everywhere a masterclass in setting boundaries. Her latest video lays out exactly which texts from her baby father will—and won’t—get a response, and her rules are as firm as they are clear.
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“I’m not responding to random hellos or anything vague,” she says. “We’re not about to have that back-and-forth dialogue.” Her point is simple: communication should be direct, concise, and strictly about the child.
Texts That Won’t Get a Response—And Why
Korrin breaks it down into four rules. First, one-word greetings like “hey” or “hi” get no reply. She explains, “So you say hey, I say hi back, and then what? No, sir.”
Second, any message that doesn’t give all the information upfront will be ignored. For example, “Can I get Jacob?” isn’t enough. Instead, she expects a clear, complete request: “Hey, can I get Jacob at 5 p.m. Thursday at the Shell gas station? I’ll bring him back at 7.”
Third, any messages unrelated to the child won’t be acknowledged. “Happy birthday, happy new year, no response,” she says firmly. “We’re not cool, so I’m not opening up the door to conversation for you, fool.”
Finally, texts attempting to talk directly to the child—especially if they’re too young to respond—also won’t get a reply. Her one-year-old son, for example, isn’t having phone chats just yet.
Why Her Approach Resonates With Other Parents
The video immediately struck a chord with viewers. Many praised her for prioritizing the child’s well-being and keeping communication professional. @ladylalula commented, “I will protect my children and set clear boundaries… I wish for my younger self I could have done that at the start of my relationship.”
Others shared similar strategies. @lah explained, “My ex-husband and I are on a corporate-level communication style… we highlight the decree by the line when it comes to holidays.”
Even those who disagreed found the perspective thought-provoking. Some fans debated whether cordial messages like birthdays or holidays are necessary for children to see healthy co-parenting, while most agreed that boundaries are essential.
Lessons From a Mom Who’s Done With Drama
Korrin’s TikTok reminds parents that co-parenting doesn’t have to be a free-for-all. By keeping messages direct, concise, and strictly about the child, she maintains control over her life while ensuring her child’s needs come first.
“Clearly say what you want,” one commenter added. “We are not friends. Get to the point.” For many parents scrolling through the chaos of custody arrangements, these words hit home—and sparked a wave of solidarity and shared experience in the comments.
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