Mom of Twins Says She Wanted Her Parents to Move to Canada So She Could Go Back to Work Full Time Until Her Mother Asked if She Was Sure She Wanted to Miss This

“Beta, your kids will only be this little once.” That is the line a mother of twins who posts as wealthhubindar says she has never been able to shake. According to her caption, her own mother said it when she was weighing whether to bring her parents over to help with the babies so she could go back to work full time.

The video is six seconds long. She stands at a stone railing above a fast river, with forested mountains and low cloud behind her, holding a toddler in a pale sweater and leggings with a bow in her hair. The little girl wraps both arms around her neck and kisses her cheek. Two lines of text sit over the scene: “I asked my parents to come to Canada to help raise my twin babies so I could go back to work,” with a Canadian flag, and then, “Then they said something I haven’t been able to forget.”

The caption tells it slightly differently and in more detail. There, she writes that “there was a season” when she thought about asking her parents to move so she could return to full time work and they could help with the twins. Her mother’s answer, as she quotes it, went on: “One day they will not need you to carry them. One day they will be busy building their own lives. Are you sure you want to miss this?”

“I did not have a good answer for her,” she wrote. “Because she was right!!!” She is just as plain about the other side. She lists bills to pay, a future to build, a wish to be financially independent again, and “a part of me that still wanted to build something for myself too.” Her conclusion: “Both can be true at the same time.”

The post then turns into a pitch. She says she started building a business from home “in the pockets of time I have between naps, bottles and my 9 to 5,” and invites parents to message her to find out how she is doing it. The post does not say what the business sells or what joining costs.

If grandparents moving in is on the table

For families in Canada, one route for parents to stay long term is the super visa. According to Immigration, Refugees and Citizenship Canada, it is a multiple entry visa for parents and grandparents, valid for up to 10 years, that allows a stay of up to five years per entry, with the option to apply to extend by up to two years at a time. Applicants need a medical exam and private health insurance from an approved provider, and the child or grandchild hosting them has to meet minimum income requirements.

Using leave before deciding

Parental leave can buy time before that decision. On its Employment Insurance maternity and parental benefits page, the Government of Canada says standard parental benefits pay 55 percent of earnings, up to $729 a week, for up to 40 weeks shared between parents, with one parent taking no more than 35. Extended benefits stretch to 69 shared weeks at 33 percent, up to $437 a week, with one parent taking no more than 61. Sharing the weeks between both parents is one way to stay home with twins longer without either parent leaving work outright.

Before you answer a work from home offer

The offer at the end of the post deserves its own questions. The U.S. Federal Trade Commission, whose guidance is written for the United States, tells people vetting a business or coaching opportunity to ask the seller for the legally required one page disclosure document, which should identify the seller, list any lawsuits, state cancellation and refund terms, give references and include an earnings claim statement if income is promised. If what a seller says does not match that paperwork, the FTC calls it a sign of a shady operation to avoid.

Practical checks for any parent tempted by a work from home offer in a comment thread: find out what you would be selling and to whom, get the total cost in writing before handing over a card, and ask for the earnings of typical participants rather than the best case.