One mom was left unsettled after facing a situation that many might find relatable yet frustrating. For three long years, she had a friend who continually canceled plans at the last minute. With her pregnancy nearing its end, the mom couldn’t shake off the feeling that the friendship was becoming completely one-sided.
The friend had consistently backed out on their plans, displaying a pattern that left the mom feeling more like a backup than a priority. There were only a handful of occasions over the past year where the friend made it to gatherings that required considerable effort to coordinate. Travel time often stretched between two to three hours, making her friend’s repeated no-shows feel even more disrespectful.
As the months rolled by, the excuses shifted—from fatigue to wanting to spend time with her boyfriend—and eventually, the mom simply stopped receiving texts. She was left wondering how someone could ignore her time and effort so easily. The final straw came on her birthday when she organized everything with her friend in mind, only to be met with last-minute cancellation, spinning the blame back on her. After sending proof of her efforts, the friendship started feeling disposable.
Initially, she tried to be supportive, focusing on her friend’s pregnancy. However, the blatant disregard for their relationship weighed heavily on her. The mom felt like a punching bag, consistently striving to be present for someone who seemed indifferent to her feelings. The isolation was starting to feel intentional, especially when the friend later expressed that she felt lonely and unsupported.
In a surprising turn, the mom decided to block her friend, not wanting to deal with inevitable excuses or guilt trips. The reasoning was straightforward—this friend seemed to take pleasure in knowing she had someone who cared but didn’t reciprocate in any meaningful way. The mom recognized that some friendships do not stand the test of time, especially when the effort isn’t mutual.
People had very different reactions when her post made its way to Reddit. Some supported her decision to cut ties, pointing out that her friend clearly didn’t value the relationship. Others remarked that the friend’s behavior was indicative of someone who didn’t prioritize their friendships, once again failing to recognize the toll of continuous cancellations.
Many users noted how the friend was likely to lean on her excuse of being pregnant, allowing her to evade accountability. This resonated with others who had faced similar situations, reminding them that not all friendships are meant to last, especially when one party consistently fails to show up. The comments reflected a mix of solidarity and concern for her friend’s well-being, highlighting how friendships can be fraught with complications.
Some pointed out the concern that her friend’s behavior might stem from deeper issues, suggesting that perhaps she was being influenced or even isolated in her new relationship. Despite her own grievances, the mom felt a tug of empathy, wondering about the motivations behind her friend’s choices. Commenters debated whether her friend’s pregnancy served as an excuse for behavior that had long been established.
As the story unfolded, a family member of the friend reached out after the baby was born, questioning the lack of visits. The mom shared her side of the situation, detailing her attempts to maintain contact. The family member’s reaction seemed to validate her approach but also suggested an underlying network of concern for her friend.
With ongoing discussions about the nature of their friendship, the mom found herself caught between wanting to support her friend and recognizing that she had been doing all the emotional heavy lifting. The continued flakiness, especially post-pregnancy, only deepened her confusion about the friendship’s future. Was her friend truly struggling, or was this just another chapter in a long history of neglect?
In the end, the mom felt enormous relief in sharing her experience, realizing that she was not alone in feeling disrespected. Yet, lingering questions remained. Would the friend ever acknowledge her behavior once life settled down with the baby? And how would the dynamics shift moving forward—if at all?
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