A 24-year-old woman found herself feeling uneasy after a phone call with a guy she met on Facebook Dating. What started as a casual conversation quickly veered into territory that left her questioning everything. Instead of lighthearted banter, he was discussing tall children, incels, and even suggesting a date at Applebee’s — and she wasn’t sure how to feel about it.
During their chat, he asked her what kind of content she enjoys on TikTok. She mentioned watching funny videos and random stuff, which seemed harmless enough. But then he brought up Shera Seven, a TikTok personality known for sharing advice about dating wealthy men. This led him to reveal that he’s not rich and is graduating with a finance degree. The woman didn’t even ask for this backstory, but he felt it necessary to clarify. That alone felt a bit off to her.
As the conversation progressed, he complimented her height, saying he liked that she was tall at 5’9”. He mentioned that being 6’1”, he wanted kids who would also be tall — especially his sons — so they wouldn’t “end up incels.” This comment caught her completely off guard, and she was left wondering how height could correlate with someone’s relationship success or social life. When she questioned him about it, he offered no substantial answer, just a vague statement about “that’s just how it is.”
After their phone call, she felt an unsettling vibe. He had jumped from a casual introduction to some pretty heavy topics way too quickly. Despite her friends often calling her picky, she didn’t view wanting a healthy relationship with someone who shares her values as an unreasonable expectation. At 24, with no prior relationships, she was determined not to settle for uncomfortable interactions.
People had very different reactions to her post. One user suggested that this guy seemed deeply insecure and advised against continuing communication with him. Others echoed that sentiment, recalling their own experiences. They noted how common it was for people to label those who are selective in dating as too picky, yet many shared that their patience ultimately paid off when they met partners who truly matched their values. One commenter mentioned their own marriage, saying they met their partner years later and were grateful they didn’t settle for less.
Some responses offered insights into why it’s crucial to trust instincts, even if it takes longer to find the right person. They acknowledged how often women can end up tied to partners who don’t treat them well, leading to years of frustration and dissatisfaction. There was a strong consensus that it’s better to remain single than to rush into dating someone who brings red flags to the table.
Amid the reactions, encouragement poured in for the woman not to feel pressured into a relationship. Some thought her instincts were spot on, stressing that no one should feel obligated to tolerate unsettling behavior from potential partners. In a world where dating can lead to confusing encounters, many emphasized the importance of looking for compatibility rather than forcing a connection that doesn’t feel right.
As the thread continued, it became clear that the woman was faced with a choice: push through the discomfort or cancel the date altogether. Would she risk meeting someone who already seemed to reveal a concerning perspective on relationships, or could this effort lead to something better? With so many opinions swirling around, the question remained: how does one balance being open to new experiences while still holding firm to personal standards?
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