Our childhoods were shaped by habits and lessons that might seem unusual or even hard to believe today. As we look back, some of the ways we were raised stand out because they differ so much from current norms and expectations.
Understanding these surprising aspects of our upbringing helps us see how much times have changed and how those experiences influenced who we are now. Reflecting on these moments allows us to appreciate the unique path our parents took in guiding us.
Being told to suppress emotions instead of expressing them
We were often told to keep our feelings to ourselves, as if showing emotion was a weakness. “Don’t cry,” or “toughen up” were common phrases we heard growing up.
This idea of suppressing emotions might have seemed normal then, but now we understand it can cause issues. Bottling feelings usually doesn’t make them disappear; they tend to come out in unexpected or unhealthy ways.
Today, we know it’s better to acknowledge and share what we feel in safe ways. Expressing emotions helps us connect with others and take care of our mental well-being.
Using outdoor play as the main way to socialize
We grew up spending hours outside, using outdoor play as our primary way to connect with others. It wasn’t just about fun; it helped us learn how to communicate, cooperate, and solve conflicts naturally.
Through playing together, we built friendships and practiced important social skills like patience and empathy. Being outdoors gave us space to explore and lead, often without adult direction.
Today, it might seem unusual to rely on outdoor play this much for socializing. But back then, it shaped how we interacted and grew socially in a hands-on, active way.
Relying heavily on handwritten letters for communication
We grew up when handwritten letters were a main way to stay connected. Mailing a letter was how we shared news, feelings, and important events with family and friends. It often took days or weeks for our words to travel, which made every letter feel special.
Today, it’s hard to imagine waiting so long to hear back. We now expect instant replies through texts or emails. But back then, handwriting gave a personal touch that digital messages can’t fully replace. Those letters showed effort and care in a way typing never does.
Having strict rules about fixed gender roles
We grew up with clear, unchanging ideas about what boys and girls were supposed to do. Boys were expected to be tough and independent, while girls were often told to be quiet and nurturing.
These rules shaped everything—our clothes, hobbies, and even how we behaved at home. Sometimes, it felt like there wasn’t much room to be ourselves.
Looking back, it’s surprising how rigid those boundaries were. Today, many of us see gender as more flexible, allowing everyone to explore who they really are.
Experiencing limited screen time with no smartphones
We grew up in a world where screen time was a rare treat, not a constant companion. Without smartphones, our conversations stayed between us and those around us, making moments feel more real and connected.
Our days weren’t filled with scrolling, but with playing outside, reading books, and using our imaginations. This slower pace gave us space to explore creativity and build meaningful friendships face-to-face.
Now, it’s hard to imagine life without screens, but looking back, we had the freedom to focus on the world around us without constant digital distractions.
